Lately we’ve heard more and more about stress related lack of drive for a variety of reasons. Well, This one is for those of you who are having a tough time getting your lover in the mood.

Try giving your stressed partner a sensual massage to calm their nerves, relax their bodies and get them ready for lovemaking. Here is a step-by-step guide to getting it right.

First, be sure to set the mood. You will need candles. Having the right scent is very important to getting your lover ready. No one wants to smell dirty clothes or bathroom spray. Instead, buy a bunch of sweet or floral candles and be sure to let them burn for at least 15-20 minutes before getting started.

Dim the lights or opt for no lights at all depending on how many candles you have. Soft lights sell the fact its time for sex.

Soft sensual relaxing music is key to setting up the mood. You don’t want to hear the TV in the background or noise from outside cars. Also make sure you leave your cell phone outside the room to avoid the temptation of checking texts or emails while giving your lover a massage.

You will want to use massage oils. If you don’t have any… olive oil will work. You can even add a drop of essential oils like Lavender or Almond. Olive oil will soak into the skin and act as an excellent moisturizer. Plus… you can use it on other parts to allow for easier gliding if you know what I mean.

Take care of your partner from head to toe, release their tension and stress and prepare for a night of ecstasy!

Part of amping up your sex life is making sure you feel GREAT about yourself. Oftentimes women don’t want to be intimate with their man because they feel self conscious about their bodies. Luckily with the help of a few things you can start to look and feel sexier tonight.

If your worried about cellulite and uneven skin tone, get a spray tan! It’s a wonder in a can that really can help mask imperfections and smooth out skin tone. Instantly cellulite is reduced and even stretch marks are made less visible. If that still isn’t enough for you, dress up in a sexy outfit and be sure to throw on some fishnets. They’re always sexy and can help cover up what you don’t feel comfortable being seen.

If some extra weight is your issue, luckily there’s a variety of lingerie to help cover and conceal areas you don’t feel your best about. If your stomach is the issue, wear a corset top. If it’s your tush, get some cute booty shorts. If your breast aren’t as perky or as voluptuous as you’d like…get the boob job in a bra…Victoria secrets miraculous bra!! It’s really amazing.

Whatever your issue remember that men don’t see your imperfections the way we do. They’re just happy you’re naked. Use these tricks to boost your confidence to get the sex life you deserve!!

Remember in the very beginning of your relationship when you were
exploring one another in every way. You would ask questions about
dreams, fantasies, likes, dislikes. You’d be sweet, sexy and flirty. One
of the best ways to keep the passion alive in your relationship is to
keep dating each other. Treat your love like it’s the first few months of
meeting. Ask questions, be sweet, look at them with sexy eyes. Send
flirty text messages and give sweet gifts. At first it might feel forced or
awkward because you haven’t done it in a long time, but I promise,
once you get back into the hang of it again you won’t remember this
time you’re experiencing without it. It will become your relationship. All
of the passion in every way will increase.

So take a moment and write down the first feelings you had when you
laid eyes on one another. Remember the feelings and the excitement.
Re-create it and you will find your relationship is re-invigorated.