Who cares if you say you’re an inch taller, (or an inch shorter in my producer Jill’s case)? What does it matter if you say you’re a few years younger or a few pounds lighter? They’re just white lies right???

Well…It depends on the lie.

There are a plethora of things people lie about, some are forgivable and some are deal breakers.

For example, if you lie about your height by an inch, no one is gonna call you out by bringing a ruler to your first meeting. If you’re vague about your job because you’re afraid of potential creepers…that’s also ok.

White lies that are debatably deal breakers include how much you smoke or drink. Maybe on your profile you put occasionally because you have every intention of quitting TODAY… well…once your date realizes you’re going through two packs a day, they MIGHT call it quits. If you say you’re super active with lots of hobbies when in reality you only DREAM of having lots to do…that MIGHT not kill it either. But it might…so be careful.

However, if you lie about how many kids you do or don’t have, how in shape you are or how much money you make… you’re done. Totally done.

 Here’s the thing about online dating. Most people who are doing it are kind of freaked out about it and are looking for reasons to not do it anymore. People are worried about others posing as someone their not. Once they catch you in a lie… you’re toast.

Just be as honest as you can be. People will be attracted to your quirks and honesty more than you trying to be someone you’re not. This even means avoiding saying things like you’re a tom boy and low maintenance when really your as much of a diva as it gets.

When it comes to online dating, honesty really is the best policy.

How to make the right approach online

If you see someone who catches your attention online, here are some rules and

regulations about making that first contact:

For The Guys:

Don’t wink, poke, slap, jab or any other sort of passive indication the online

dating site has set up. Be a MAN and EMAIL. Women want to be approached

similarly to as if you were at a bar. Send a nice note, tell a joke, be yourself and

give her a genuine compliment about what attracted you to her profile. Don’t

be pathetic and say things like, “I know you must get a lot of emails so if you’re

interested let me know”, or “Sorry to bother you since I know you must get lots of

guys contacting you”. Be aggressive and confident that you are a catch!!

For The Ladies:

Winking, poking etc are for your use! It would be equivalent to smiling from

across the room. Now, I know you’ll see guys that you think are cute and you’ll

get so excited you will want to email them first but I’m gonna caution you,

don’t do it! Let the men approach. If they are online they shouldn’t have any

reservations emailing a woman they find appealing. You are allowed to poke,

wink or smile, but don’t email. I know we are in a new decade and all, but men

still need to be the pursuer in a relationship in order for them to appreciate it.

So a quick recap: Winking, smiling, poking are for women’s use ONLY and are

similar to smiling at a bar. Men – make a confident approach and send her an

email!!

This one is mostly for the ladies: If you feel like all guys online are just looking for sex, remember this: If you give it away for free…men will treat you like your cheap!

Meaning…DON’T SIGN UP FOR FREE DATING SITES! Guys who are on these services are not as likely to be serious about developing a real lasting relationship. A man who’s willing to fork over some cash to meet a nice woman is also likely to shell out some cash for a nice date that leads to conversations, second dates and down the road, wedding bells.

Don’t BE cheap, pay a little money to meet someone nice and you won’t be seen as cheap. You may just be surprised as to what type of relationship and man you can meet online!

Just remember you get what you pay for!